Tao Te Ching

“Much better to not marry. Living day in and day out with the same man or woman—of whatever sort—makes the other less attractive and become disliked. By keeping apart and only staying together from time to time, they reach a deep intimacy that even the passing of many years will not destroy.”

— Yoshida Kenkō 兼好 1284 – 1350 CE via Sir George Bailey Sansom, Shan Dao
Inspiration of self-reinvention
from Essays in Idleness