People are created equal in terms of value and intrinsic worth but confusing this with equality of skill, intelligence, and capacity completely flies in the face of reality. We’re all so different. And when we’re true to who and what we really are, the notion of “equality” appears superficial at best. As Carl Jung described, men have an anima, a feminine side and women have an animus, masculine dimension. Appreciating and celebrating the diversity brings more inclination to accept and be ourselves rather than striving for an obscure and false persona. Like Taoism’s yin-yang symbol, the ancient myth Plato described as masculine and feminine being two halves of a complete whole helps bring into focus the value and possibilities of opposites becoming complementary rather than in conflict.
In Buddhist literature, the feminine principle is described as our basic ground, Prajnaparamita (the perfection of wisdom), the "Great Eastern Sun," discriminating awareness wisdom, the dakini principle of inquisitive playfulness that prevents boredom but gambles with our lives, Vajrayogini—the world’s living life thread, the meaningfulness of life.
The dilemmas facing women challenge the most aware and insightful. Genes and hormones program women to attract men and most pursue that with abandonment spending billions on cosmetics, clothes, perfumes, and plastic surgery. An unfortunate side-effect of their success in this endeavor, however, includes attracting unwanted attention, sexual harassment, and rape. Men, on the other hand, have genetic programming to be attracted and act on this feminine attraction. Of course, men need to discipline and control their desire; but, women (and society in general) could also aid this restraint by discriminating more the context of their physical attractiveness and emphasizing other, more important aspects of their beauty: the allures of intelligence, charm, insight, and wisdom.
Marshall McLuhan's insight that "every new technology requires a revolution" applies poignantly and disruptively to balance of power between male and female. In this case, the new technology is birth control. Before easy to find and use, socially-acceptable birth control, women were severely hampered in the political, social, and familial balance of power struggles. Being pregnant much of their productive years and needing to take care of very needy babies of necessity extremely limited their ability to excel in the political, business, and in almost all income-generating realms. In terms of various kinds of evolution, this almost doubles the capacity; but, at the same time, it threatens masculine roles, creates a heightening of the "war of the sexes," and necessitates a revolution in all cultures around the world.
“The duties of woman are created in the rites of wedding... a husband must be constantly worshiped as a god by a faithful wife... If a wife obeys her husband, she will for that reason alone be exalted in heaven.”
“Lavinia: ‘Why must there be war?... The horrible list of carnage they were making ready for… Why? What was it for? For a pet deer? For a girl? What good would that do?’
Turnus: ‘Without war there are no heroes. What harm would that be? Oh Lavinia, what a woman’s question that is.’”
“The female creature is a letter. The unborn children are the letters it carries. And the letters—although they have no voices—speak to people far away.”
“The mysterious feminine, the root and source of heaven and earth, inexhaustible and unfailing”
“Recognize the masculine but turn back to the feminine and become the world’s riverbed.”
“Zeus and Hera were arguing about who got more pleasure from sex: men or women. To settle the argument, they called for Tiresias, who had lived as both. Tiresias took the side of Zeus, saying that women’s pleasure was greater, and Hera, in her fury, turned him blind.”
“Of all things that have life and sense, we women are the most hapless creatures; first must we buy a husband at great price, and then o'er ourselves a tyrant set, which is an evil worse than the first.”
“The difference between men and women is mainly that men beget and women bear children. The pursuits of men are the same as the pursuits of women, the gifts of nature are alike diffused in both so there should be no difference in the kind of education they receive and little difference in the roles of both in the state's administration... a woman's talent is not at all inferior to a man's.”
“Propitious Queen of Love whose vital power, air, earth and sea supplies… by they prolific might, springs and beholds the regions of the light”
“The basis for realizing enlightenment is a human body. Male or female, there is no great difference. But if she develops the mind bent on enlightenment, the woman's body is better.”
“the concepts of the creative and the receptive that originate in the I Ching are symbolized by Heaven and Earth. Through the union of heaven and Earth, there develop the 'ten thousand things', that is, the outer world.”
“A superior maiden has the looks of a goddess, longevity, merit, and splendor surround her. Her mind and thoughts are like a crystal vase that seems to be filled with the amrita of everlasting companionship.”
“Just resting is like the great ocean accepting hundreds of streams, all absorbed into one flavor.. How could they not reach into the genuine source?”
“Much of the poverty and distress of our times arises from the fact that women are kept like domestic animals or house plants for purposes of gratification.”
“The feminine, the valley, the spontaneity of spiritual transformation, this subtle and profound way to wonder is the most powerfully creative principle”
“Women are the treasure house of Buddhism. They are the source out of which every being came forth including Buddha and Bodhidharma!”
“No one who is not utterly blind can fail to see that God gathered all the beauty of which the whole world is capable of in woman. Woman far excels Man. Woman was not composed of any inanimate or vile dirt, but of a more refined and purified substance, enlivened and actuated by a Rational Soul, whose operations speak it a beam, or bright ray of Divinity.”
“O night to me more splendid and more blessed than the most blessed and most splendid of days… you've made the bitter taste of this life sweet and dear.”
“Only when yang descends and yin rises does everything flourish… When sages are above the people, and their hearts are below, we call this uniting with Heaven.”
“Patriotism in the female sex is the most disinterested of all virtues. Excluded from honors and from offices, we cannot attach ourselves to the State or Government. Even in the freest countries, our property is subject to the control and disposal of our partners, to whom the laws have given a sovereign authority. Deprived of a voice in legislation, obliged to submit to those laws which are imposed upon us, is it not sufficient to make us indifferent to the public welfare? Yet all history and every age exhibit instances of patriotic virtue in the female sex; which considering our situation equals the most heroic of yours [men's].”
“Well, knowledge is a fine thing, and mother Eve thought so; but she smarted so severely for hers, that most of her daughters have been afraid of it since.”
“I do not wish them [women] to have power over men; but over themselves. If women be educated for dependence; that is, to act according to the will of another fallible being, and submit, right or wrong, to power, where are we to stop?”
“Without women, the beginning of our life would be helpless; the middle, devoid of pleasure; and the end, of consolation.”
“The origin of all women may be called celestial, for their power is the offspring of the gifts of Nature; but, by yielding to pride and ambition they soon destroy the magic of their charms.”
“The man's desire is for the woman; but the woman's desire is rarely other than for the desire of the man.”
“If fine manners are so admirable in men, how much more effective are they in women.”
“the fundamental fault of the female character is that it has no sense of justice... They are dependent, not upon strength, but upon craft... Therefore a woman who is perfectly truthful and not given to dissimulation is perhaps an impossibility”
“Like day she came, making the night a dream
To move, as one between desire and shame
Thou comest from the realm without a name.”
“That man over there says that woman needs to be helped into carriages and lifted over ditches... Look at my arm! I have ploughed, and planted, and gathered into bards, and no many could head me! And ain't I a woman?”
“Women are always true, even in the midst of their greatest falsities, because they are always influenced by some natural feeling.”
“There is only one sex. A man and a woman are so entirely the same thing, that one hardly understands the mass of distinctions and of subtle reasons with which society is nourished concerning this subject.”
“All human beings have the same interest in good government. Gender is as entirely irrelevant to political rights as differences in height or hair color.”
“A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me.”
“[A man] can admire, and he can like, and he can fondle and be fondled. He can admire and approve, and perhaps worship. He can know of a woman that she is part of himself, the most sacred part, and therefore will protect her from the very winds. But all that will not make love. It does not come to a man that to be separated from a woman is to be dislocated from his very self. A man has but one center, and that is himself. A woman has two. Though the second may never be seen by her, may live in the arms of another, may do all for that other that man can do for woman, -- still, still, though he be half the globe asunder from her, still he is to her the half of her existence. If she really love, there is, I fancy no end of it.”
“Social progress may be measured precisely by the social position of the fair sex”
“Great social changes are impossible without feminine ferment. Social progress can be measured exactly by the social position of the fair sex (ugly ones included).”
“Behold a woman! The old face of the mother of many children, clearer and more beautiful than the sky. The sun just shines on her old white head. The melodious character of the earth, the finish beyond which philosophy cannot go and does not wish to go, the justified mother of men”
“Here and there is born a Saint Theresa, foundress of nothing, whose loving heartbeats and sobs after an unattained goodness tremble off and are dispersed among hindrances instead of centering in some long recognizable deed.”
“Men and women represent two completely different kinds of consciences and therefore don't understand each other. They merit different kinds of moral law but in practice women are judged by the male rules as if they were a man.”
“The spiritual power of a woman is best demonstrated by her sacrificing her own spirit to that of a man out of love of him and of his spirit but then, despite this sacrifice, immediately evolving a new spirit within the new domain, originally alien to her nature, to which the man's disposition impels her.”
“We are the slaves of slaves. We are exploited more ruthlessly than men. Whenever wages are to be reduced, the capitalist class use women to reduce them.”
“The exemption of women from military service is founded not on any natural inaptitude that men do not share, but on the fact that communities cannot reproduce themselves without plenty of women. Men are more largely dispensable, and are sacrificed accordingly.”
“The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer in spite of my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What do women want.'”
“In human beings, there is no such thing as pure masculinity or femininity, either in the psychological or the biological sense.”
“In human beings there is no such thing as pure masculinity or femininity either in the psychological or the biological sense.”
“The human race, in its intellectual life, is organized like the bees: the masculine soul is a worker, sexually atrophied, and essentially dedicated to impersonal and universal arts; the feminine is queen, infinitely fertile, omnipresent in its brooding industry, but passive and abounding in intuitions without method and passions without justice... There is something mysterious and oracular about a women’s mind which inspires a certain deference and puts it out of the question to judge what she says by masculine standards.”
“Poverty—more generous than wealth—gives women much more than the clothes they cannot buy: that is the desire for those clothes, which leads to the only true, detailed, and profound knowledge of them.”
“The religions of Egypt and Babylonia were originally fertility cults… In Babylon, Ishtar, the earth-goddess, was supreme among female divinities. Throughout western Asia, the Great Mother was worshipped under various names. Greek colonists named her Artemis… Christianity transformed her into the Virgin Mary, and it was Council at Ephesus that legitimated the title Mother of God”
“the psychological relationship between the sexes… the real domain of woman. Woman's psychology is founded on the principle of Eros, the great binder and loosener, whereas from ancient times the ruling principle ascribed to man is Logos.”
“Woman always stands just where the man's shadow falls, so that he is only too liable to confuse the two. Then, when he tries to repair this misunderstanding, he overvalues her and believes her the most desirable thing in the world.”
“Don't tell me women are not the stuff of heroes... My body will not allow me to mingle with the men but my heart is far braver than that of a man.”
“It is this radiance in women, more than any other quality, that urges men to every sort of heroism, be it martial or poetic... Woman possesses the power of perpetually creating in man the qualities she desires, and this is for her an infinitely grater power than the possession of those special qualities could ever confer upon her directly.”
“In all domains of science, art, social work, and government, woman has proved to be capable of reaching the greatest heights when circumstances were favorable... And the many other talented women—actresses, painters, poets, among all nationalities! So many wise leaders, warriors, and great saints among women!”
“No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a nice man who wishes she were not.”
“the majestic reality, the flood of energy, which now revealed itself to him: omnipresent, unalterable in its truth, relentless in its development, untouchable in its serenity, maternal and unfailing in its protectiveness.”
“In the reproductive functions proper, woman is biologically doomed to suffer. On the other hand, as regards sexual attraction and as regards the erotic pleasures, the woman may be on an equal footing with the man.”
“He thought her beautiful, believed her impeccably wise; dreamed of her, wrote poems to her, which, ignoring the subject, she corrected in red ink.”
“Helen has become a love cry—to this day every woman reflects her splendor. She traverses the centuries, awakens in every man the yearning for kisses and perpetuation. She transforms every woman we clasp to our breast... sexual desire assumes exalted titles of nobility. At her touch ugly children become beautiful”
“She was beautiful in her ignorance, virtuous in her simplicity, and strong in her weakness. Today she has become ugly in her ingenuity, superficial and heartless in her knowledge. Will the day ever come when beauty and knowledge, ingenuity and virtue, and weakness of body and strength of spirit will be united… ?”
“The position of women in early societies was one of subjection verging upon slavery. Her periodic disability, her unfamiliarity with weapons, the biological absorption of her strength in carrying, nurturing, and rearing children, handicapped her in the war of the sexes and doomed her to a subordinate status”
“Let me, before I die, sing a hymn in praise of women... if anywhere there is divinity it is here... Catholics have been right in praying chiefly to the mother of God... The grace of her movement is poetry become flesh”
“Most economic advances in early society were made by the woman rather than the man… she developed agriculture, made cotton cloth, developed sewing, weaving, basketry, pottery, woodworking, building, primitive trade, and slowly added man to her list of domesticated animals training him in those social dispositions which are the psychological basis and cement of civilization.”
“Mary Magdalene beat her breast and sobbed,
The beloved disciple turned to stone,
But where the silent Mother stood, there
No one glanced and no one would have dared.”
“If it is so painful to love and to be charged with this electric current, how much more painful must it be to a woman and to be the current, and to inspire love.”
“Where the woman is faithful, no evil can befall. The woman is the root and the man the tree. The tree grows only as high as the root is strong.”
“Let woman out of the home, let man into it, should be the aim of education. The home needs man, and the world outside needs woman.”
“All women’s dresses are merely variations on the eternal struggle between the admitted desire to dress and the unedited desire to undress.”
“Women administer the home. They set the rules, enforce them, mete out justice for violations. Thus, like Congress, they legislate; like the Executive, they administer; like the courts, they interpret the rules. It is an ideal experience for politics.”
“There is a historical rejection of the Mother Goddess implied in the story of the Garden of Eden. The male-god-oriented group rejected it… in religions where the god or creator is the mother, the whole world is her body. There is nowhere else”
“wisdom is represented by the divine female form, compassionate action by the divine male. Both symbolize the lunar and solar psychic faculties in human beings, which must be integrated in the process of enlightenment.”
“If we ever doubted that women are the Forgotten Men of history, the Adams epic should remind us… despite the fact that Abigail was one of the brightest, most public-minded, and most sacrificing of the family, she has been treated as little more than a mirror for her husband and the age.”
“The trouble with girls is, if they like a boy, no matter how big a bastard he is, they'll say he has an inferiority complex and if they don't like him, no matter how nice a guy he is, or how big an inferiority complex he has, they'll say he's conceited. Even smart girls do it.”
“I know of no industrial society where women are the economic equals of men. Of everything that economics measures, women get less.”
“A woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing. She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination prepared to be herself and only herself.”
“A wise woman wishes to be no one’s enemy, a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim.”
“[Discussions about] gender bring us right up face-to-face with sex, as well as love… the functioning of society and the conditions of freedom.”
“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”
“A women's place in history has never been given the attention that it needs to be given, and that's why we have a lot of the misogyny in our society today.”
“Tell us what it is to be a woman so that we may know what it is to be a man. What moves at the margin. What it is to have no home in this place. To be set adrift from the one you knew. What it is to live at the edge of towns that cannot bear your company.”
“According to the Tantric path, women are the source of wisdom phenomena and the support of desireless bliss through desire... those who do not depend on women can never be liberated.”
“The pedestal on which some thought women were standing all too often turned out to be a cage.”
“I think that all women are witches, in the sense that a witch is a magical being. And a wizard, which is a male version of a witch, is kind of revered, and people respect wizards. But a witch, my god, we have to burn them. It’s the male chauvinistic society that we’re living in for the longest time, 3,000 years or whatever. And so I just wanted to point out the fact that men and women are magical beings. We are very blessed that way, so I’m just bringing that out. Don’t be scared of witches, because we are good witches, and you should appreciate our magical power.”
“A trophy wife polishing her veneer continues a hopeless path toward obsolescence.”
“The masculine principle proves best at innovation, action, beginning new things; the feminine principle best at maintaining and nurturing the newly created. Genghis Khan was a genius at creating a new world culture of religious, ethnic, and gender equality but his sons could not maintain it, modern civilization was saved by his daughters.”
“A woman watches her body uneasily, as though it were an unreliable ally in the battle for love.”
“Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ("And the reason men are stupid is that women are crazy." - Shan Dao)”
“The mother principle, the feminine principle of basic sanity is the basic ground of pure space uncorrupted by dualistic confusion. A fundamental and cosmic principle, it constantly gives birth churning out the colorful display of phenomena while protecting and nurturing discrimination.”
“No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a really nice man who wishes she were not.”
“We are not saying that the feminine principle belongs to women and the masculine principle belongs to men. Realization does not belong to either sex. Wherever there is a perceiver, that is the masculine principle; wherever there is a perception, that is the feminine principle.”
“Because of the feminine principle… there is a lot of room, openness, groundlessness… no one is standing on any ground so communication can take place quite freely.”
“The Tibetan for dakini, the embodied feminine principle, is khandroma, which means 'she who moves through space'... the space and emptiness that gives birth to all apparent existence.”
“the feminine principle is the creative power that gives birth, the space, the zero dimension of emptiness from which all phenomena arise.”
“Instead of getting hard ourselves and trying to compete, women should try and give their best qualities to men - bring them softness, teach them how to cry.”
“Never before or since have women [the daughters of Genghis Khan] exercised so much power over so many people and ruled so much territory for a long as these women did.”
“Contemporary feminism cut itself off from history and bankrupted itself when it spun its paranoid fantasy of male oppressors and female sex-object victims. Woman is the dominant sex. Woman’s sexual glamour has bewitched and destroyed men since Delilah and Helen of Troy.”
“when they tell you that I was heartless, a shameless man-chaser, don't forget this: I loved what I saw... what aggravates them is I've never shed one solitary tear... as we all know, a woman is supposed to cry.”
“I am one of those women who love sex... something women are still not supposed to admit in polite society... some women love sex more than they love love, some love love more than they love sex, some love them both at once... then there are women who would rather stay at home any day and read a book instead”
“Each of us is descended from innumerable generations of men who lied, cheated, charmed, bullied, or killed their way to sexual intercourse, and from innumerable generations of women who charmed, seduced, lied, or manipulated their way to extracting economic privileges in return for access to their bodies.”
“There is no boy, at this age, cute enough or interesting enough to stop you from getting an education. If I had worried about who liked me and who thought I was cute when I was your age, I wouldn’t be married to the President of the United States.”
“The veil deliberately marks women as private and restricted property, nonpersons. The veil sets women apart from men and apart from the world; it restrains them, confines them, grooms them for docility. A mind can be cramped just as a body may be, and a Muslim veil blinkers both your vision and your destiny. It is the mark of a kind of apartheid, not the domination of a race but of a sex.”
“Men need to get laid. For women it's less of a 'must' and more of a 'might be nice' or a 'possibly.' We can't win. If we don't play the game, we're frigid or we can't get a man. If we play the game too much, we're a slut, the village bike, damaged goods... patriarchy is a stitch-up.”
“Taoism is unique among the major schools of Chinese thought in emphasizing the priority of the feminine principle (yin) over the masculine principle (yang).”
“how we divide ourselves based on differences in sex and gender... Not only do we feel that men and women have entirely different natures, but we also create power hierarchies based on those differences... But times have changed... If we are going to assign a gender to the qualities we most need it is more likely to be feminine than maasculine.”
“extremists are afraid of books and pens, the power of education… of women.”
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Shan Dao
7 years ago
The idea that things need to get worse before they can get better, that they need to get more dire before they can motivate change seems to be playing out with the explosion of sexual misconduct accusations. Trump’s blatant Access Hollywood tape may have started a momentum tide that we’re seeing today. If so, hopefully this same dynamic will play out in many more ways. Called a “war on men” though, this reaction may be too dualistic not recognizing the male side of the feminine and the female side of masculine. As always, the focus on a specific, external problem can expose much broader and deeper issues. In this case, the imbalance, misunderstanding, and distortion of male-female relationship. $25 billion+/year in the US and Europe is spent on cosmetics and perfume while $6 would provide basic education, $8 would provide water and sanitation, $12 would provide reproductive health care for all in developing countries. ($780 billion spent each year on militaries). It’s ironic that so much spent on making women more seductive and attractive which generates huge and unknown amounts spent on sexual harassment law suits. Of course, the innocence defense used by rapists based on their victims wearing sexy clothes is completely bogus and they are still guilty even if a scantily-clad woman walks down a dark alley in the middle of the night. That doesn’t make that woman’s behavior any less foolish though. Perhaps in a similar way, spending $25 billion a year on perfumes and cosmetics, a corresponding amount on sexy clothes, liposuction, and cosmetic surgery; could represent a feminine participation in our rampant sexual assault statistics. Hopefully this will lead to a relationship reprioritizing from face to heart, from external attractiveness to inner goodness, to valuing the depth more than the surface.
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